Wednesday, March 03, 2010

We can talk a lot but say very little

Just heard the following statement from my pastor the other day and I thought of passing it to you:
"We can talk a lot but say very little."

Isn't it true that in life, there are times when you are talking to another person, you guys can talk a lot, but say very little?

What does that mean?

It means it seems that you guys can talk a lot and about a lot of things, but the things said are very shallow, very superficial. So it is like not saying much. Do you have that experience?

For a relationship to grow deeper, this is not a good sign at all. Unless of course you intentionally choose to not to be close to a particular person.

However, it is sad to hear people complaining about their relationships not being close; and after spending a lot time with that person but in the end, still don't really know him/her.

In order to build a fulfilling relationship, both parties must be willing to share, to be open and to be vulnerable. (That was why in a previous post, I quoted from another source that "To love is to risk not being love in return".)

To grow deeper in a relationship, both parties must be willing to go beyond the surface. Otherwise, it will be a case of talking a lot, but in fact, very little said.

When I talk about relationship here, I don't mean only Boy-Girl Relationship. It could be any kinds of relationship. Friends, close friends, family and so on.

Personally, if I really care for the person, I would want to know him/her at a deeper level. That is where we can truly connect. Otherwise, we can spend a lot of of time talking but it will all be just empty talk. And I don't particularly enjoy that.

Anyway, this is just a thought. What do you think?

I'm excited about this year and I know that my LIFE WILL NEVER, EEEEEEEEEEEEEE....................EEEEEEE.....................EEVER, BE THE SAME, AGAIN!!!

1 comment:

Empress Tey said...

it's sad how people think they are making up for lack of substance by yakking away. thanks for your pastor's quotation--that totally made a lot of sense, especially among our kids today.