Saturday, March 15, 2008

3 Reasons Why People Don't Succeed

Now, for most of you reading this post, you might already know the 3 reasons why people don't succeed. It is not that they fail; they simply don't succeed. We also know that there are no failures in life, only outcomes. But let's not even talk about that. Let's just talk about why most people don't succeed.

The sad part about this is that there are countless people who know about it but still did not do anything about it! Worse, some are in denial! So, what are the 3 reasons why people don't succeed?

My mentor, Ernest, shared with me the reasons why people don't succeed. It is because they:
1) Give Excuses 2) Blame 3) Justify

First, they give 101 excuses why they can't succeed. They say things like, "I've no time." "I have no money." "I don't have the resources." "I'm not that smart." "My parents don't support me." and so on.

Second, they blame other people for not starting. They blame the environment, they blame the weather, they blame their friends, they blame their parents, etc. Basically, they blame everything and everyone else except themselves. Do you know of such people?

Third, they justify their actions or their inaction. In the dictionary, justify means to show or prove to be right or reasonable. No matter what they do, no matter what happens, they will do their best to prove that they are right. Sounds familiar?

Recently, I got a chance to chat online with one of my students. We started talking about each others' dreams and stuff. And she told me that she don't want to be a millionaire. I was quite taken aback and I naturally asked her why. She said that she wants to become a billionaire. Oh my! Why didn't I think of that? Good for her. There's nothing wrong with that. It only means she needs to put in the necessary work to become a billionaire. And it is not easy to become a billionaire. According to Forbes in 2008, there are only 1,125 billionaires in the whole wide world! That translate to only about o.oooo17% of the world's population!!! Not even close to 1%.

Then she told me that she wants to become a chef and asked me if she can become rich by being a chef. The answer is definitely yes. It depends on how rich you want to be. But how rich you can be is determined by how good you are. If you are a good chef, you can probably be rich. But if you want to be extremely wealthy, then you have to move up to the next level. That is, you can't stop at being a chef. You can own the restaurant, set up a training academy for chefs, franchise the business in different countries and so on. Only when you own a business, then being rich is a lot easier.

She then said that it would take a long time to do achieve it and currently, she only knows how to fry eggs!!! I said so what? Remember, it is not how good you are but how good you want to be. Yes, it may take a long time, but is there a shorter way to accomplish it? The answer is yes. She just needs to start training now and talk to the right people to get going. Because if you wait, then success will come even later. Let me ask you, when is the earliest time to start? The answer is NOW!!!

Guess what happen next to our conversation? My student then told me that her mom won't allow her to cook at home, she don't know how to cook, don't know who to talk to, don't know where to start, no money, no time and etc. So I asked her if she know why people don't succeed and she said she know. Then I asked her if she falls into any of the categories and guess what she said? She said no! Can you believe it? If those things that she mentioned above are not excuses, I don't know what they are.

She continued to say that those were not excuses, they are facts. I just laughed. Do you see it now? The sad thing is that people know about all these and yet they do nothing about it. They even deny and justify that they are facts. Yes, those things that she mentioned were real problems. But the question will be, what are you going to do about that? Are you going to allow your problems to stop you from achieving your goals. So what if your mom don't allow you to cook at home? Go to your friend's house, go enroll in a cooking course, go find ways to convince your mom, go do something about it!

Let me just say this, Successful people succeed in spite of their problems. Let me repeat, Successful people succeed in spite of their problems. Successful don't give excuses, they don't blame, they don't justify their actions. They simply find ways to overcome their problems and do whatever it takes to succeed. Are you willing to do whatever it takes to succeed? How much effort and work are you willing to put in? How badly do you want to succeed?

If you are not committed, then it doesn't matter what you do. But if you are truly committed, then you'll definitely find a way round your problems. You'll succeed in spite of your problems. So, the question is, do you fall into any of the 3 categories on why people don't succeed? Are you giving excuses? Are you blaming? Are you justifying? If so, then it is about time you make the change.

And once you make the change, your LIFE, WILL NEVER, EEEEE.........EEE......EEVER, BE THE SAME AGAIN!!!


Anonymous said...

Oi why u post abt me! but thank god u didn't metion my name if not u will find urself in heaven the next day i read it!=)

Miss Stalker said...

U just give away ur name hahas!